I can see Menopause staring me down and no one ever wants to talk about it. Oh, a few talk show hosts have made feeble attempts at breaking down the walls and getting women and their families to discuss it. But I find it completely fascinating that is still treated like a dirty little secret or something shameful. The changes in my weight and appetite make it difficult for me to ignore, and my acerbic tone sometimes gets the better of me. But interestingly enough, I am more at peace with who I am and have a confidence I never had before.
Comes With Age.
Weight is always a battle. When I was pregnant with my first child I was 23 years old. I ate whatever I wanted and loved it. I had not a care in the world. I assumed that the pounds would melt off me because I was young and well…, once you give birth, all that weight just goes away, right? By the time I gave birth, I weighed 178 pounds. I have a small frame and my normal weight – back in those days was a freakish 125 pounds.
Soon after I gave birth, I went for a walk. I just was so exhilarated and energized, I needed to stroll the hospital floor. In one of the waiting rooms, I saw a scale and made the horrible mistake of stepping hopefully onto that scale, I just knew I was going to be close to my goal weight, given that I had just burned at least 2,500 calories during labor and, of course, had a baby! To my utter shock and complete dismay, I had only lost twelve pounds. I almost fell on the floor in a heap, the tears flowed, and I felt like a pig when I realized I had about forty-five pounds to lose.
I don’t even get on a scale theses days.
We all want a magic pill, one that can reduce weight or take away crankiness. Or a magic protein shake to beef up the possibilities that we face every day. A magical injection that would turn our words into the right motivation for family, friends or employees who fear change or deny problems.
Unfortunately, work takes work. There is no magic pill. The exertion you expel will harvest rewards: rewards that might not even be immediately seen or extolled. And only you decide whether it is a bitter pill or not. Motivation cannot be purchased in a bottle. Drive cannot be swallowed. Impetus doesn’t come in extra-strength. But each of these can be contagious.
The truth is that “the magic” lies within you, within each of us. It is held in the actual labor and effort you put forth. Whether it is the battle of weight or for the corner office. Neither happens without effort.
There you have it.
Rayanne Thorn, @ray_anne is the Marketing Director for online recruiting software company, Broadbean Technology. She is also a proud mother of four, happily engaged to Tom, residing in Laguna Beach, California, and a daily contributor for Blogging4Jobs. Connect with her on LinkedIn.