I work hard.
I am sure you do, too. It isn’t easy nor is it always fun, but it does seem to be necessary. It is for me, anyway. I also used to be one of those people who has trouble saying no. I will say, however, that I am getting better at using is very simple yet powerful two-letter word. I have thought a lot about why it is so difficult for me to say no and I have decided it is because I want to say yes. My greatest weakness may be that I enjoy working and I try a little too hard to be a people-pleaser.
This very true description of me used to mean I volunteered (too often) for many projects outside of my work place and beyond my work week. Sometimes, others would volunteer me but I usually did the dirty deed myself. I have always been attached to a theatre and theatre projects. I was also a member of the Lion’s Club and on two different executive boards for charity organizations. I still regularly attend and present at Chamber of Commerce events and have mentored high school students who are interested in entering the business world. I was strung out often.
I felt like I could never give enough and that I consistently needed to do more. Besides, I liked volunteering; it feels good. This type of work added a sort of balance in my life, especially when I felt completely out of balance. We all need to find balance and realize that we are not alone, nor is anyone else. I eat a balanced diet. I try to exercise when I can. I spend down time with my family and squeeze in some time for friends. Why wouldn’t I also balance my work?
I used to think it was a bunch of hogwash, that I could live my life the way I wanted and find happiness. As my work life became more organized and more balanced, I had to balance my personal life, which meant letting go of several volunteering opportunities. It wasn’t long into my own adulthood when I realized how personal organization attributes to balance and it is priceless. One of my favorite things to say is gaining the balance and balancing the gain. This covers a lot of territory and is an ongoing endeavor – I will never be done..
Constantly strive to gain that balance. Say no every so often; it is empowering. Eat right (that’s the mother coming out in me.) And let go of past hurt. You cannot be balanced if you are constantly looking back or hanging on to anger and pain. This is a human experience and it includes many dimensions. Of course, no one wants that full experience, but you can’t always get what you want.
Sometimes you get what you need….
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Rayanne Thorn, @ray_anne is the North American Marketing Director for the online recruiting software company, Broadbean Technology. She is also a proud mother of four residing in Laguna Beach, California, and a contributor for Blogging4Jobs. Connect with her on LinkedIn.