A couple years ago, my son was telling an absurd story about some outlandish behavior by a few of his junior high school friends and one boy, in particular, that had displayed some poor behavior. His older sister interrupted, blurting out about the friend, “Yeah, it’s because his mind is twitched.” There was a moment of silence and then the rest of us in the car exchanged looks and burst out laughing. She had attemted to explain away this boy’s bad behavior.
Every day, we are exposed to bad behavior, brilliant choices, good practices, poor decisions. They sometimes become moments that change who we are or mold our futures. Hopefully, they are good and real. At the time, my daughter’s statement hit me in a specific way that not only made me laugh but also caused me to pause and really think about the excuses we use as justification for our actions or the actions of others.
We all have minds that twitch occasionally…
Minds can wander off the beaten path, or rise up and overpower rational or good thought or responsible action. Life is funny that way. I have often heard that “man” is a natural enemy to God. I interpret this to mean that man’s/woman’s inclination is to follow their heart’s or body’s desires/needs. And what does this mean? That we tend to do what we want instead of what we should.
Humans tend to do what they want, instead of what they need.
Should I gossip? Should I call that candidate/applicant back and tell them they didn’t get the job? Should I steal the database before I leave the company I am currently with? Should I lie about who I am and what my capabilities are? Should I throw my colleague under the bus who stumbled over a presentation and may have cost us an account? Should I cling to my old and dusty ways, “this is how we’ve always done it” ?
If I fail to fullfill the requirements of my job, should I just blame everyone/everything but myself and my own actions/inabilities?
Life is strange in that what goes around, comes around. Yes, sometimes, my mind is twitched ( I think she meant to say “tweaked”) but that twitching is what makes me human and tests my courage and willpower. My responsibility and loyalty has to be to myself and that which is important to me and the industry where I reside. My allegiance is to my community, to my neighbors that come by the porch every once in a while.
Don’t be afraid to be unique, to speak your mind, to stand for something different, to display ethics or good judgment. Live by what you truly believe, not what you think the other guy wants or needs to hear.
Dare to be twitched, but in a good way.
Rayanne Thorn, @ray_anne is the Marketing Director for online recruiting software company, Broadbean Technology. She is also a proud mother of four, happily engaged to Tom, residing in Laguna Beach, California, and a daily contributor for Blogging4Jobs. Connect with her on LinkedIn.