Part of Life and Part of Business are barely distinguishable for me. And that can be a good thing, but also a bad thing. I have always prided myself with being crystal clear, original, transparent – as what I write about consistently proves. Life sometimes gets in the way of business and business sometimes get in the way of life. It is how we manage those intersections that matters. I have been a believer of this philosophy for a while: Balance your gain and then gain your balance. Not always easy words to live by.
I am a mother of four children. For most of that time, I have been a single parent, whether I was married or not. Why? Because raising my children –really raising them, being involved, and showing them consistent and unconditional love – was more important to me than it was to my spouse. It just is what it is. The difficult part comes in when you are the breadwinner or on the track to be a bigger breadwinner and you are the mommy. I can tell you, without hesitancy, that it has never been easy or guilt-free. But I am not complaining – I am merely stating fact – for it is through trial and difficulties that we get to that next level of understanding.
My children have grown up with a mother who works, a mom who has consistently educated herself so that she may move onward and upward, finding her “work-life home”. There is no way that I could have grown and developed without their support and love, in return. It took me eleven years to get my business degree, with an emphasis in organizational management and marketing. Eleven years. I am still paying for that education and will be for a while. Why did it take me so long? Because I worked full-time and I was a mom overtime.
We live in fast-paced world that demands constant evolution. If you are unwilling to learn – evolve – or yield to the self-stubbornness that keeps you from balancing your gain, how can you ever gain your balance while increasing your lot?
I did not want to cease use of my PalmPilot. Where would I be if I had not? I didn’t want to invest in a CD player – all of my music was on cassette tape, and now I praise the Spotify Gods. I didn’t want to pay $10 a month to use Dropbox– cloud storage, but if I hadn’t, where would all my writing now be when my computer crashed last year? I am not saying “abandon all comfort zones” – but what I am saying is that learning to be flexible and recognizing that it is a constant balancing act will benefit you in the long run. I will never not be a student, I can’t afford to “know it all” for the minute I do, I fall behind and someone is waiting to step into my spot.
And the best way for me to keep my balance is to see my past clearly and evaluate the missteps, the broad strokes, and the brief flashes of brilliance that have shaped me, have shaped who I have become and who I will be tomorrow. I am prepared to share missteps and losses. I am not sure everyone is prepared to hear them, but then where is the gain without the risk?
Rayanne Thorn, @ray_anne is the Marketing Director for the online recruiting software company, Broadbean Technology. She is also a proud mother of four residing in Laguna Beach, California, and a contributor for Blogging4Jobs. Connect with her on LinkedIn.