The Dalai Lama said, “Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity cannot survive.”
We often think of lessons of the heart as having to do with a broken heart. While this is a sad lesson, to be sure, “heart” is so much grander than romantic love. Some may say that romantic love – true love – is the grandest of all. It is wonderful and glorious. But the “heart” I am talking about sweeps every plane of existence. It is the ability to see beyond personal needs and desires to gain an understanding of the vastness of life – of humanity. To truly comprehend that having heart is what gets us through a time of trial or simply a very bad day.
Love is the active concern for the life and growth of someone else.
But Love, Self-Love, is also the drive behind the action which gets us through, which drives us on, and leads us to the place we need to be.
This game of life is only one-half skill, the other half is something else – something bigger. You gotta have heart. Have hope, don’t sit around and mope…
Benefit or Don’t Do It
One of my personal rules for life, work, and the extras is that I must benefit from my efforts or I will not participate or give. That benefit might be that I feel good giving back or volunteering or devoting extra time – but if I don’t? If that extra effort causes contention or misery for me, who or what is then benefiting? Why should how we run our lives be any different than how one would run a successful business? The CEO in the Know would not allow his employees to move forward with any endeavor which would not benefit his organization, one way or another.
You are the CEO of your Life
Learn what motivates you, what drives you, what brings you joy in your life or work. Then nourish it. “Love is not just a strong feeling, it is a decision. It is an act of will and commitment. And thus, it does not (or should not) matter if it is reciprocated.”
The People in Your Life and Work
Think of those in your life who have had a positive impact on you – who have helped define and refine who you are, either by loving you or holding a mirror up in front of you. My mother has had the greatest impact on me. She taught me right from wrong, strength from weakness, as well as the joy of committing to a job well done. There, of course, have been others: teachers, employers, and friends. Why were their lessons and guidance more impactful than those lessons found in books? Because love, care, and concern were the backers to their actions and words. Now, think of those on whom you have had an impact: children, siblings, friends, colleagues…, there are probably many. And why – why have you had a positive impact on their lives? Again, it is because love, care, and concern were the backers.
Influence is a powerful force which can and should be used for good. Think of the difference it made in your own life – in turn, how can you positively affect and influence others?
You Gotta Have Heart
“Blessed is the influence of one true, loving human soul on another.” – George Eliot
Who will you influence today – who will you love today?
Part 1. On Growing Whole – Create Your Legacy Now
Part 2. Evoking Excellence in Your Downhill Slide
Part 3. Strength in Purpose: Becoming My True Age
Part 4: Hunger for Experience and Thirst for Wisdom
Part 5: Work and Life: Giving Your Heart