The Change in Me
Sometimes, I think I am the same person I was 20 years ago. And other times, I can’t imagine still living in that time, in that place
There are also times when I see a picture of myself five years ago and I wonder who that woman was. The magic of being a human being is our ability to change, to grow, to develop – to learn. To progress.
It is certainly possible that the seemingly mundane choices we make or the people with whom we choose to work with or hang out can halt our progress. How do you protect the progress within and realize when it needs to emerge? If I could answer that in a simple blog post, I would be a very wealthy therapist.
I have, however, learned a few methods of personal progress over the years as I have hungered for erudition and thirsted for change. I am one of those weirdos who loved school and value the many learning opportunities which perpetually line my day. Thus, you can teach an old dog new tricks.
3 Methods For Progress
- Listen to Me. Many of us spend so much time seeking counsel or advice from parents, siblings, children, therapists, doctors, friends, mentors, or colleagues that we forget the voice of the person who knows us best. No one knows me better than me. Over the years, I have learned to listen and rely on the wisdom I have gained through years of training to be me. That voice which wakes me at night or cautions me throughout my day / week knows a thing or two. Recognize your own voice and value of your own input.
- Slow Down. As soon as the world around me starts to speed up and deadlines loom, someone always waves the hurry hand. This is when mistakes are made – this is when you stop listening to your own voice and while you are supposed to be moving faster, you are ultimately moving slower. When that tension rises and I feel like I am about to burst from the “go, go, go” – I picture myself in a world like The Matrix where I can slow down and see the big picture to not only dodge the bullets more effectively but actually catch them. In my teeth.
- Trust My Instincts. While this may sound like “listen to me” – it is not. Listening is a quiet action and trusting is quite loud, it means you make a decision based on the voice you slowed down & listened to and you act. Times when I have trusted my instincts are the times when my own personal progression was off the charts – I grew in innumerable ways. And I became dauntless in my approach to work and life.
I want to be passionate about my work and my life. I want to know that I am moving onward, which doesn’t necessarily mean upward but most certainly could. Forward on the foe which impedes your personal growth and development; that foe is usually yourself.
Sometimes, you need to get out of your own way.