Too many are out there, and as stated by the well-loved, modern-day proverb, “Opinions are like a*******, everyone has one.” It’s easy to say, but hard to remember during times of crisis or change. A recent post on Jezebel regarding opinions about childbirth and motherhood further cemented this notion of opinions for me.
We have to have our own opinions
Very few of us have the wealth to afford the opportunity to sit before a personal advisory board everyday to lay out the plan and receive the necessary feedback to make the right next step in our lives, careers, relationships, etc. Though that would be nice, maybe. Sadly, “failure to launch” would take on a whole new meaning.
I am Lucky, Fortunate, and Blessed
I am in a place in my life where I recognize the divine (or universal) intervention and personal intuition / developed wisdom which has protected and guided me along my path. Many years ago, I sat in a behavioral science class, soaking information in like big, giant sponge, every bit that I could regarding the science of human behavior – why humans respond and act the way the way they do – why I respond and act the way I do. I continue to learn about myself and others daily. Increasing our understanding of self an others should be continual education, a lifelong quest.
I quake at opportunity
That quaking is not to be misconstrued as fear or trepidation, but rather as the excitement of risk, the thrill of the chase for change. “You’re doing it wrong” doesn’t scare me or hurt me. It tells me that the sayer doesn’t have the same understanding or life/work experience as I. And it doesn’t mean the sayer is wrong – it means we are different. Here’s the thing: I don’t have the same understanding of life / work experience as they. THIS thinking is a shift in my personal perception and understanding. It is me changing while not expecting the others to. How refreshing.
The Next Corner
I am fearful of outcomes on a regular basis or uncertainty is draining. But my opinion is constantly evolving because I choose to let it – to actively listen and learn – because no one is right all the time, at every turn – no one. Much like politics, religion, and cell phone choice, we can’t let the opinions of some uninformed few have complete influence over our personal choices – they are called personal choices for a reason.
Wait – I do have an advisory board
However, I have learned to lean on a few key individuals, who I bounce ideas and choices off, as well as sadness or misfortune. They listen, they advise, and they care first, about me. And they, in turn know that I first, care about them and will listen with my head and heart, advising with both, as well. It’s important to say what we are thinking out loud, to make sure our thinking is accurate or just. And your friends, advisors, coaches, mentors, or significant other can be that sounding board. I write this because I need to remember it myself.
No Man is an Island
But he is his own CEO – he is the head of his own life and the direction he takes. The smart CEO listens to his executive team.
Somebody I recently followed on Twitter sent back an auto “thanks for the follow” reply. They usually irritate me and I delete asap. But not this one — it was this very simple quote:
“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there.”
That’s where you can find me today… and most likely tomorrow, as well.