Biz Strategies Twisted into Survival & Coping Tips,
Over the last several years, there have been many times when I have wondered, “Why me?” – and a friend once asked me if perhaps I wasn’t born under the sign of the turd. If I have learned anything from surviving personal crisis, it is that I never give up, I never surrender. I will fight for survival forever.
I have been able to twist brilliant business and time management strategies, as well as straightforward advice into hard and fast tips on how to deal with and survive personal crises. In my last post, I shared my first four tips. This post shares the next 4. And there will be more to follow…
A Gentle Reminder
These tips worked for me as preparation to cope during a personal crisis or severe trial, and sticking to them helped me actually get through the crisis. Survive it. Thinking about them doesn’t make them work, they don’t work, if you don’t do them – pretty simple.
- Benefit from What You Spend Time, Money, and Resources on or Don’t Do it.
- Don’t Spend Too Much Time on Any One Thing.
- Avoid Social Media Addiction.
- Keep a Calendar.
4 MORE Tips for Surviving Personal Crisis
5. Write Down Your Goals
We are told this so often. Goals are not the same thing as dreams – goals should be fully attainable, but not so easy that you don’t have to work very hard to attain them. It is the work that makes them worthwhile – the achievement is everything. Writing them down forces you to give them words, words give your goals power. And in giving your goals power, you see the potential of an attained goal. Plan them out – figure out what you need to do to get to the end when you look back and say, “Wow, I made it.” Follow-through – a must if this tip will help you cope with a crisis. Do what needs to be done to achieve your goal.
6. Put Your Mobile Phone or Device Away
I know, shocker that I have written these words, me. You mobile device keeps you attached to more drama than you need. It makes it easy to become addicted to social media. It makes it way too easy to become overworked and overtired. When you step away from your desk – try this, try leaving it there. I know, crazy. But do you that most people will leave their identification and money at their desk when they step away, but not their mobile phone. And you could also try this, turn it off. Just turn it off. You don’t need to be connected to everyone, every second of every day. The release and relief will confound you. You will remember what it was like to have conversations while looking at someone’s face. It’s quite astounding actually. Put it away, disconnect, turn it off. Enjoy the silence. You may even find the peace you need to think, to cope, to regain your will, to survive.
I stopped taking my phone with me when I walk my dog about 2 years ago – occasionally, I take it to be used as a camera if it is an exceptional day. But the peace and commune provide the perfect respite. <This is my favorite one, and the one that was hardest for me to achieve…interesting how that works>
7. Schedule as Much as You Can Before 2pm
You will be surprised how much more you will get done if you plan to do much of it before lunch, before the day has it’s way with you. Avoid scheduling meetings or appointments late in the day. You may believe that is your prime time, but it isn’t. We are often sluggish and maybe even depressed after lunch, even more so if you skip lunch or work through it. Our bodies and minds are at their best when they are fully rested, not when they have been beat down by the day. And avoid, as much as possible, being away from home in the evenings. Consider this the gift you give to yourself – that your time off will actually be time off. You can re-group, re-charge, and re-ignite. You need it, take it.
8. Speak Kindly
Just the other day, I was at my Starbucks and one of favorite baristas was working the register. We were having a friendly chat about his recent camping trip while I paid for my order. The person immediately behind me made a couple grunts and said something foul about our conversation – I am sure this person was just angry that our conversation was light, airy, and friendly – while he typically spoke in grunts. Speaking kindly to someone goes so far and can mean so much to them – you just never know. But this is about YOU – it’s about YOU getting through your crisis. Speaking kindly to others softens the outer crust we often build when we want to protect ourselves, whether we have been hurt or felt slighted in any way. I have learned over the years that when I give kindness – even in the mere tone of voice – kindness comes back to me tenfold and just in time to help me get through one more day, one more hour. When all else fails? The Golden Rule always works. Always. If everyone lived the Golden Rule, truly lived it, there would be no need for laws. Imagine that.
My next post will tie this series up nicely with my final 4 tips for coping with or surviving a personal crisis…
“The journey of our lives is not just about the destinations we have reached. Our wisdom, education and personal growth come from the people we meet, the paths we choose to follow and the lessons we have learned along the way.” - Unknown
by Rayanne Thorn