More Strategies for Surviving Personal Crisis,
Have you ever wondered “Why me?” – as a crisis or period of unwanted change loomed? Haven’t we all. Many of us learn to survive by duking it out until the bitter end. This is my intent, anyway. They can have my sometimes tragic life when they pry it from my cold, dead fingers.
I have built a set of “dealing with life” rules or tips from business and time management strategies that have worked well for me, they have helped me deal with times of personal crisis like when I lost my home to foreclosure or when I had to make the hard choice to put a loved pet to sleep. I share these here in hopes that they help you, as they have helped me! This post concludes this three-part series about surviving personal crisis. I shared my first four tips here and the next four here.
The Same Gentle Reminder
These tips worked for me as preparation to cope during a personal crisis or severe trial, and sticking to them helped me actually get through the crisis. Survive it. Thinking about them doesn’t make them work, they don’t work, if you don’t do them – pretty simple.
Tips 1 through 8
- Benefit from What You Spend Time, Money, and Resources on or Don’t Do it.
- Don’t Spend Too Much Time on Any One Thing.
- Avoid Social Media Addiction.
- Keep a Calendar.
- Write Down Your Goals.
- Sometimes, Put Your Mobile Phone/Device Away.
- Schedule as Much Before 2 pm as you Can.
- Speak Kindly
I found this great post published on Huffington Post called 12 Things Happy People Do Differently – Many of the “things” coincide with my tips for coping and surviving. There must be something to this!
4 Final Tips for Coping With and Surviving Personal Crisis
9. Take Vacations
This seems like a funny tip, I know – but taking a break, an actual break, from your day to day grind is beneficial to your mental and physical health – most likely your soul appreciates it, as well. We work too hard in North America. Many of us never even step away from our desks for lunch, opting to eat at the keyboard. I know I do this. We need to make the time to take the time. Even if you don’t go anywhere exotic or far away, you can choose to decompress. This summer, my family took a stay-cation. We stayed in our own town and spent time at home “off of work”. We put in a flower garden and built a firepit area in our backyard. It was a wonderful activity for me to do with my kids and we created fun, new, and very different memories. Rejuvenation is imperative in order to succeed. Burnout is not a good coping mechanism.
10. Take Care of Yourself, Before You Take Care of Others
You may have heard this, my children certainly have, “If momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.” Many working professionals are also balancing private lives that include spouses, children, aging parents, pets, or busy extra-curricular activities. Before I do anything else in the morning, I brush my teeth – I am taking care of me. And then I go for a walk – I am taking care of me, while I am taking care of my dog. It’s very hard for many of us to do this, but you must put yourself first. If you don’t take care of you, who will? When a crisis looms or drops in your lap, you will be better able to tackle it if you have been taking care of yourself – giving back to you. Never forget how much YOU matter. You cannot fully give to others, including your work, if you haven’t taken care of yourself.
11. Relieve Stress and Release Anxiety
Do something that helps you release anxiety before it has its way with you. I write nearly every day. It has been the single greatest thing I have ever done for me, personally, and for my career. I have found out so much about myself by writing and pursuing specific trains of thought. Perhaps you could take up writing or art of some kind or learning a new skill or take up an exercise like yoga or kayaking . Choose an activity that causes you to thoroughly focus and helps you let go of tension or pent-up anxiety. AND make sure you are getting enough sleep. Overtired, over-stressed, and increased anxiety are a personal crisis waiting to happen.
12. Give Yourself a Forward
This is a little trick I implemented into my life when I was in the middle of a personal crisis – hardcore. I was going through a divorce and found myself estranged from family and friends. It was a horrible time. I was in the midst of pursuing my business degree when all this was happening to me. I didn’t know how I was going to cope or how I was going to make it. Then I remembered a book I had read in a Dramatic Lit class called Forwards and Backwards by David Ball. It was written to help actors understand play writing and screenwriting tactics – many writers will give a clue or a hint in a storyline or script about what the future will bring for a particular character, this is called a forward. Often playwrights will give exposition or background on a character, this is called a backward. I decided that I was the main character of my life and that I was going to create a forward for me and that forward was a diploma in my hand. No matter what else happened, I was going to keep seeing that forward for my life. And I made it. When I stepped up to be handed my diploma, I knew that I could achieve anything that I set my mind to. Give yourself a forward…
Life is a Balancing Act
You stand on your head. You follow through. You spin plates. You deliver. It’s all about gaining the balance, so you can balance the gain.
Whatever else you do, remember to Live, Love and Laugh AMAP (as much as possible) because you deserve it.